Today I read about a man named Steve. He and his wife had a beautifully healthy boy, and when they found out they were pregnant with a girl, they were so excited. Steve had herpes that he got before he was married when he was in college and had casual sex. His wife knew, and they were very careful. After their daughter was born, his wife noticed that something was different about their new baby girl, Ginger. It wasn't long before they found out that during her pregnancy, even though they were careful, the wife got herpes. She passed that along to her baby. In babies, herpes goes to the brain. It was already in the baby's liver. Prayers have kept it from her brain, but the sores on her hands are a constant reminder of the fight that this little girl will have her whole life. Steve didn't have to have an outbreak to give herpes to his wife. His wife never showed symptoms at all, but passed it to their daughter. Steve spoke out so that others would know. He was taught in high school and beyond that casual sex didn't hurt anyone. It did though. It hurt Ginger.
Such a sad story.
It angers me so much that this lie of safe sex is being taught to our children. It angers me that no one tells them that even if you are "safe," STDs can be transmitted. Condoms aren't fool proof. Even if kids are told that, what they aren't told is just as big.
Drs. McIlhaney and Bush wrote a book called Hooked: New Science on How casual Sex is Affecting Our Children. In this book they talk about how after examining the human brain using MRIs and PET scans Dr. McIlhaney says they "discovered that repeated sexual experience with multiple partners over time permanently changes the wiring of the brain and damages they way it was designed to function." Dr. Bush says that there are three neurotransmitters in the brain called dopamine, oxytocin, and vasopressin. "These chemicals operate to give great pleasure to a man and woman during sex and then bond them together emotionally." Dr. McIlhaney continues "When a person has sex with multiple partners outside of marriage, this bonding mechanism is interfered with, and he or she loses the ability to connect in the same way. A man and woman who 'sleep around' when they are single will often have a weaker bond with the person they marry...We have reviewed more than 250 studies, most of which confirmed these changes occurring in the brain and what they mean. Our observation is that human being are designed by God to have one sexual partner for life. When you share that experience with others repeatedly and casually, the chemistry and the neurological wiring inevitably changes, sometimes irreversibly.... You can actually see brain activity when a person is lusting. When a person is experiencing genuine love for a person of the opposite sex, a different part of the brain is stimulated and shows up on PET scans." Dr. Bush continues, "When a couple has a sexual experience by then does not stay together, if affects both of them emotionally, which then tinkers with the function of the pleasure-giving neurotransmitters. That, in turn, rewires the brain."
You can find their interview about their book in Dr. Dobson's book Bringing Up Girls.
I don't think that my blog is read by many, but maybe it will be read by someone who then goes and talks to their children and helps protect them from damaging their lives and the lives of their future spouses and children or maybe by a teen who is thinking that casual sex affects no one and it changes their minds. Naybe.
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